Words of anger and violence

I've talked (ok I know that should be 'written' :-), but I'm not going to change it because when I write this blog I feel as though I'm talking) about 'conscious language' a lot. It's worth giving a serious thought to this matter of 'conscious language' if we're going to start paying attention to our thoughts. Words, after all, help us externalize our thoughts ... but very often we say things quite unconsciously, and as a matter of habit - old proverbs, borrowed ideas, vocabulary we're conditioned to use, expressions common in our family, quotations we quote from, expressions of sarcasm and anger that we try to pass off as jokes.

This then is perhaps beginning to sound a bit tricky now, and you aren't sure where this is going. I can understand your discomfiture -- as I, myself, have gone through this conflict. On one hand to be articulate and so enjoy telling jokes and funny stories, and on the other, wanting to bite my tongue (yikes! - what a good example of a violent phrase) each time I spoke words that were best avoided, if I was to mind my language. It seemed at one stage that to speak 'consciously' I'd have to give up having fun with language. Yet, as I walked consciously on the path, slowly but surely I started releasing the habit, and the need, to use words and phrases that were in conflict with what I wanted to see happen in my life. And don't worry - it was a relief to discover that there is more to fun and jokes than sarcasm and black humor. And that nobody's style, of being a good story teller has to suffer.

An example that comes to mind is, several years ago, I was taking courses at a school where there were many women in their 40s and 50s. Some would joke self-deprecatingly that if their businesses didn't take off they'd end up as 'bagladies'. "Don't plan on being at the corner of St. Catherine Street and Peel", said one to the other, "I've booked that for myself!" Everyone else laughed. And this was supposed to be funny? What were they thinking? Now, before you think I have no sense of humor, please stop and think: Would these women have actually wanted to end up as bagladies? Wasn't it just their insecurity and fear that led them to try lighten the fear by trying to turn it into a joke? Except that turning fears into jokes doesn't release the fears - they stays right where they are, and gradually attracts to themselves, their own likeness. (Please refer to the entries from Dec. 14 and 15.)

Whether you agree with me or not right now, do start giving some thought to words that leave your mouth. Stop and think what it is you are creating for yourself.

Before I give a list of commonly used words and expressions that people use a lot, I'd like you to start thinking about the literal meaning of some of the things you say in everyday speech. Just stop to think, and ask yourself, if you would like to manifest whatever it is you are saying --if not, then don't say it!

More tomorrow on 'concious language' ...

Kiki ;-)

Comment: Shail, so appreciate your stopping by ... and thank you for further adding to what I wrote. Folks, Shail Gulhati is an author, a writer with a spiritual inclination, and mystic -- google his name to come up with fascinating information about him, and a list of his books and other interests.