On being grateful for what you DIDN'T get

Huh? Why would I want to do that? How CAN I do that? Aren't we supposed to be happy, and therefore grateful when we GET what we want? I can hear all these questions popping in your mind. Don't blame you for thinking this way, for that's how we are raised. Disappointments are NOT supposed to happen in our lives... and if they do we are supposed to feel sad, suffer grief, even feel depressed until the next fulfilled desire.

I'm going to invite you to do do a little evaluation of your own life while you read on about how grateful I am for all those things that DIDN'T happen in my life, and I DIDN'T get, even though I wanted them oh-so-badly! Hindsight is 20/20, and after the event I have always realized that I'm better off without some of the things I desired because I was too blinded by a sense of 'neediness' when I wished for them. This sometimes led to making compromises that went against my grain... It's a relief then to learn later that a benevolent Universe knew what indignity and/or suffering I was setting myself up for, in wanting certain things in my life, that would not serve me in any way - neither make me happy nor add to my life. This taught me then to change the way I asked for things I wanted. Instead of strictly defining wishes, I always ask for 'THIS' (my wish) OR better - allowing for the Universe to modify my desires to what is optimal for me. Doing this also gives me the necessary patience, knowing that my perfect wish is being cooked to perfection :-)...

Next time you ask for something, ask for 'THIS or BETTER'... and in the mean time give thanks that so much of what you asked for didn't come to you. It didn't come because it was not the perfect answer to what your REAL needs were, and are!

Kiki :-)
P.S. My request to those who 'borrow' from this blog is to please give adequate credit to the source of the borrowed information - whether me, or books and people I quote from. Thank you.