How to make meaningful choices

Change is the only constant in our lives - time and tide, we know, stop for no one... sometimes this fact is welcome but more often than not change brings disturbance, upheavel, and at the very minimum a need for re-adjustment. This process of re-adjusting is often very painful because all sorts of fears surface and destabilize us. To have our life back in control we have to make decisions which necessarily involves making choices. For most of us making choices is one of the most frustrating exercises as we weigh the pros and cons of different options and expend a lot of energy in vaccillating from one idea to another. Outside of a clear understanding of our personal needs and limitations, the conflict is most often based on how we will be perceived by others, or whether the decision we are making will stand the test of time, or even, if we ourselves will change our mind yet again after investing time, money, effort, and emotion into realizing our wish.

In order to make decisions quickly, which is a big job for especially a Libra like me :-), I have finally invented a system by which decision making and choosing are a lark... easy as 1-2-3... For worldly and material decisions, where doubt is already present and I'm already second-guessing myself, I ruminate over, and create a short list of the available choices. To these I give the the following acid-test. I ask myself if on my death-bed I will be content, or regretful, that I did or didn't do such and such. I let my positive or negative emotional reaction guide me to make a choice.

And for bigger choices, that would effect my life, have a bearing on my soul, effect me at a deep inner level I ask myself this question: "Will doing this take me towards, or away from, my divine purpose and path?" The answer is always very clear!

Kiki ;-)
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